I am one of those people who experienced a lot of negativity and hatred from other people that it almost always broke me. The worst thing is, he's one from my extended family. He called me stupid, bitch, skinny, and a lot of other heart breaking words. He would always criticize how I dressed, how I look, everything. Being that super sensitive person that I am, I've always been affected every time he says something. I would hear his voice every time I want to accomplish something; as soon as it gets to my head, I feel intensely melancholic about myself and don't even finish what I'm doing. I came to the point that I hated my life and myself so badly that I didn't even dared to dress up nicely and do the best that I can in my actions. My life was ruined.
I realized that he wasn't the one who ruined my life, I am. If I didn't take every thing that he said about me personally and just let it go instead, I wouldn't have wasted my time to him. I could have enjoyed my life and treasured the moments that I had wasted when I put myself down just because of the opinion of one person.
When I started to ignore every negative words that he said, my life changed. I was the happiest that I've ever been. There's a Filipino quote that my mom kept telling me whenever I break down: "Pasok sa isang tenga, labas sa kabila," which means "Enter in one ear, exit in the other." That's what I did whenever he said something bad about me. I just turned my attention to other things that matter a lot more.
In life, people would always have something bad to say about you. Sometimes, it comes in their nature, they find pleasure on other people's misery. And if you react as if their criticism will break you down, they will just continue saying mean things about you, because you satisfy the pleasure they're feeling. They feel as if they succeed when they see you break down. So please don't make them feel that way. Act as if you're stronger even if your heart is already breaking in the inside, because once they saw that their criticism doesn't affect you, they'll just get bored and stop saying negative things about you.
"You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have." Be strong and don't let negative people be the victor. You know for yourself that you're a lot better person than they are, and probably you have a better life than them. They're trying to put you down, because you're most likely above them.
Be better than who you were yesterday.
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